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To demonstrate how important each of these character traits are, write down any
five numbers from 1 to 52. Now, imagine you were so successful that you were
able to teach your children 90% of the character traits listed above. Of course,
that means five of them were either not taught or at least not learned and
practiced. Here is what one young mother came up with: 11- 25 -31- 7 -49.
Consider the problems her child would face in life if he (11)had no curiosity,
(25) could not give or receive love, (31) could not persevere or stick with
anything, (7) was a very poor communicator, and (49) had no awareness of time or
effective use of it.
Try any other five. You will find that all of the character traits are important
to our quality of life and success.
The Success Equation
IQ (25%) + Achievement Motivation & Time Management (25%) +
Character Traits (25%) + Learning Strategies & Encouragement (25%) =
SUCCESS in School, Work, and Life
Basic Ideas:
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Families have the best opportunity to boost character traits and
promote positive success habits.
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Character traits, and effective ways to develop them, apply
equally to children and adults.
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Parents can effectively teach their children anything they (1)
become aware is important, (2) understand, (3) can model in their own lives and
(4) communicate to their children.
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Developing character traits gives parents and children more in
common to talk about and share. Today, the average parent spends only twelve
and a half minutes a day communicating with his or her child. Families can
increase the quality of their interactions by participating together in learning
about and developing character traits important to happiness and success.
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Extended families, friends, and volunteers can participate and
make important contributions.
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The easiest and most powerful way to develop character traits is
to make the process regular and part of everyday life.
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The processes involved in developing character traits also
increase quality of life. Life is composed not so much of material things, but
of meanings, awareness, and relationships. The world we live in can be made
ever more beautiful and meaningful by the regular infusion of positive character
traits.
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It is important to our country. You have but to pick up any
newspaper or magazine, or watch television, to be reminded how important.
Particularly Important Parent Actions
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Model What You Want Your Children to Do
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Know What You Need to Teach. Understand Clearly Each Important
Character Trait
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Make it a Habit to Purposely Develop Each Character Trait
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Identify and Correct or Support any Weak Areas (thought viruses).
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Set up a Teaching/Learning Wall or Bulletin Board
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Schedule Weekly Family Activity Times
A.
THE SUCCESS EQUATION & EMOTIONAL & SUCCESSFUL INTELLIGENCE
IQ
(25%) + Achievement Motivation
(25%) + Character Traits
(25%) + Learning Strategies/Encouragement
(25%) = SUCCESS
B. IMPORTANCE
OF PARADIGMS AND YOUR BELIEF WINDOW
YOU WILL SEE IT WHEN YOU BELIEVE IT
CREATING WORLDS TO LIVE IN
C.
MAGICAL NUMBER 7, SENSORY REGISTER, AND SHORT
& LONG TERM MEMORIES
THE IMPORTANCE OF RE-MEMBERING
WHAT YOU THINK ABOUT EXPANDS
ROLE-MODELS, GOALS, EXPECTATIONS, & IDENTIFICATION, IMITATION, & PLAY
D. POWER OF
STORIES TO TEACH ABOUT LIFE
Fairy
tales, fables, legends, myths, folklore, parables, anecdotes, and history.
E. USE OF
SYMBOLS, TRADITIONS, AND HABITS
Memory containers, meaning reinforcers,
action foundations, and automaticity boost character development.
F.
MORAL STAGES OF DEVELOPMENT & THE OLD AND NEW TESTAMENTS
1. Consequences
(Eye for an Eye)
2.
Laws and Rules (Pharisees)
3.
Principles Emphasizing the Valuing of Life (Beatitudes)
G.
THE TEN COMMANDMENTS (GREAT IDEAS)
1. Know
and worship the God Who Cares About You
2. Break
Free of Unfulfilling Paths and Habits
3. Keep
Your Promises
4.
Experience Regular Periods of Spiritual Renewal and Physical Rest
5. Honor
Family Relationships
6. Value
Human Life, Recognize It is Fragile, and Do No Injury to Anyone’s Spirit
7.
Families Should Be Based on a Husband and Wife Who Are Truly Committed to Each
Other and to Their Children
8. Live
with Integrity. Do Not Try to Achieve Your Goals at the Expense and Detriment
of Other People
9. Do
Not Hurt Others with Words
10. Be
Content With What You Have, Work Toward What You Want, and Do Not Waste What You
Have by Longingly Yearning for What is Out of REACH
H. THE
GREATEST COMMANDMENT & THE GROWTH EQUATION
(care + conflict = growth)
Matthew 22:35-40 …
Master, which is the great commandment in the
law? Jesus said unto him, Thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart,
and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind. This is the first and great
commandment. And the second is like unto it, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as
thyself. On these two commandments hang all the law and the prophets.
I. FIRST
PRINCIPLES OF THE CHRISTIAN GOSPEL & CHARACTER DEVELOPMENT
F-A-I-T-H: FREE AGENCY – AWARENESS – IDENTITIFY
WHO WE ARE – TIME PROJECTION - HOPE
REPENTANCE: RE-AIM
BAPTISM: COMMITMENT & RENEWAL
GIFT OF THE HOLY GHOST: RECEIVE INSPIRATION (STILL SMALL VOICE)
J. THREE-DIMENSIONAL
LIVING
Self – Others – God (Ideals)
K. THE
KINGDOM OF GOD IS WITHIN YOU
You Create the World in Which You Live
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